Featured post by Mrs. Wanda Fielder
The sanctity and blessing of marriage is well established in the Bible for our example, and yet it does require an effort on one’s part to make it the beautiful union that God intended. It has been stated that good marriages, like strong steel, are always forged. It doesn’t happen by chance or accident, but it takes the special efforts of each partner to build a great marriage. Let me share with you the three c’s of a godly marriage.
Commitment in marriage actually commences before the marriage ceremony at the time of the couple’s engagement where promises are made to become united in matrimony. Marriage customs during Bible times indicated that the engagement or betrothal commitment was nearly as binding as a marriage. Carrying this binding pledge into the marriage provides stability for whatever may be encountered. Too frequently marriage is entered on a trial basis lacking the commitment to each other that promises to weather the storms that might arise. However, before a commitment is made to each other, true success comes from making a personal commitment to God. That vital commitment becomes the strong foundation of a godly marriage.
The Blessing: The assurance of your companion’s loyalty and endurance through all circumstances
The lack of good communication can cause disastrous repercussions in a marriage. Although conversation plays a vital role in the love process, it is amazing to see how communication can diminish through the added pressures of day to day living. Purposefully keeping the line of respectful communication open and vibrant is a benefit to any marriage. Conversation is not necessarily communicating, so it is vital to convey heart thoughts and feelings to each other. Good communication is neither condescending nor sarcastic but consists of quality and respectful sharing. Amy Bellows, PH.D., proficiently shares, “Communication is the mortar that holds a relationship together – if it breaks down, the relationship will crumble.” By first communicating with our awesome Creator, it is much easier to be successful in communication with one’s companion.
The Blessing: Honesty in sharing and listening will be reciprocal
I Timothy 6:6 can well be applicable to marriage where it states, “But godliness with contentment is great gain.” A covenant vow was made in our marriage that promised love through better or worse, sickness or health, richer or poorer, ‘til death do us part. By choosing contentment through all circumstances that may be encountered you are providing a firm foundation of stability that cannot be shaken by the winds of life. Contentment brings peace, and peace enhances love.
The Blessing: Happiness and satisfaction
Being married for forty-three years, to the same man, and still in love, perhaps gives me somewhat of a voice to be heard. Although blessed with a wonderful and lasting marriage, the success of our union is based upon these three c’s – commitment, communication and contentment, first of all to God and secondly to each other. The two go hand in hand.
Mrs. Wanda Fielder is a pastor’s wife, published author, and conference speaker. She shares inspirational articles, recipes, ministry ideas and more at her site, Tea-Lightful Inspirations.
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