My oldest son was in third grade when the doctor ushered us into her office and told us he has cognitive processing challenges and dysgraphia.
First I cried from the relief of finally having a diagnosis, a name for the struggles that we were witnessing. It wasn’t all in my head. What we saw was real.
Then I cried for his future, because it would take extra work. Hard work. Learning and academics would look different for him than it does for most kids. He would need to be diligent and persistent. We would need to be patient and understanding.
And then I worried.
I worried about schoolwork and special help. I worried about being held back. I worried about his self-esteem. I worried about other kids treating him differently. I worried about what resources would be available to us. I worried about his future.
He’s in sixth grade now, doing well, and I’ve learned this one thing: Worry is exhausting.
When you’re a mother who thinks the worst, you feel the weight of the world on your shoulders all the time. Your mind constantly races, thinking of every possible thing that could go wrong, every scenario that could happen. You must have a perfect plan for all things. You’re mom, and you’re supposed to have every life path, detour, and roadblock completely figured out.
Corrie Ten Boom once said, “Worrying is carrying tomorrow’s load with today’s strength- carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.”
Worry has a tendency to overwhelm you and take things out of perspective. It creates anxiety and tension in our lives and can spread within our family. It may put undue pressure on our children. It can hinder our friendships. It drains our energy. It makes us weary and weak.
Jeff Goins, in his book The Art of Work, writes, “What determines our destiny is not how successful we are at dodging hardship, but what we do when it comes.” Life isn’t about strategically avoiding the hard times, it’s about how we travel through the hard times and get to the other side.
We get to choose how we respond to the cares of life and be intentional about our perspective. Worries will come; I know that. As mothers, a measure of worry seems to be built into our DNA. But how will you handle the next worry that comes your way?
When you find yourself overwhelmed with worry, ask yourself, “This may be possible, but is it probable?” There is a difference.
While many scenarios are possible, most of them are not probable. And for the things that are probable? If they happen, they’ll be inconvenient, but we’ll deal with them. We’ll take them to prayer and know that God has everything under control, that He’ll give us wisdom.
We’ll move forward, one step at a time, one foot in front of the other.
Dysgraphia is just a diagnosis — it’s not defeat. We will learn and grow. We’ll rise to the challenge!
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. – Matthew 6:34